Namaste, a term which for me has always been associated with the slightly awkwardly-cheesy bow enforced by yoga instructors at the end of a class, is the hello and goodbye of Nepal, the aloha (minus the potential profession of love) spoken on entrance and exit of every home I visited in this compelling, gorgeous, dusty, infuriating country. It’s the acknowledgement of the light or bit of God within everyone.
More than a third of the country falls below the poverty line and it’s not uncommon to see the worst afflicted lying in the crowded sidewalks with a bowl set out for coins. Many begging on the streets are kids– orphans and runaways, some addicted to inhalants, some whose parents put them to work begging. Knowing the right approach to take or what’s appropriate when ‘helping’ is so difficult here, as it can be anywhere, I’m sure. Even the slum where I’ve been working has elements of fraud and corruption where the ‘victims’ or ‘needy’ manipulate the system or outside generosity to get what they can. It’s so tempting to get angry and then walk away– from the mothers who keep their infants out in the cold streets to beg for milk or food which they’ll sell the minute you’ve turned your back or from the caretakers at orphanages who would sell books and toys bought for kids if they knew no one was looking. Kathmandu’s been a big dose of perspective. While it makes a bit of sense to react angrily, it’s not fair and it’s short-sighted. Working in places as poor as this one requires taking the long view, as well as a patient far-back look at the history of the place. Layers and layers of social complexity and generations of poverty with few people interested to stick it out long enough to help, conspire to create real desperation. And while it nears harassment and can really stress a body out, the constant hawking to and hounding from anybody with any little thing to sell, has to be understood as someone taking their chance, giving their best effort to climb out of desperation. I admit to not being very patient about this. Everyone works out their own philosophy about who to give to when and under what circumstances, but it’s all very very gray.
Politically, Nepal is a fairly interesting case-study. The monarchy is officially abolished as of week or so ago (they were pretty rotten at their god-bestowed duties anyway) and the Maoists, generally seen as insurgents and rebels, have agreed to participate in the government. The Nepalis I’ve spoken to seem to have mixed feelings about the Maoists, who extort bribes from foreigners and tourists alike and are accused of killings, kidnappings, and general terrorism. Still some support their socialist policies and goals, if not their tactics.
While it’s been declared unconstitutional, the caste system is still practiced, especially in rural areas. It makes for fun reading in the personals section of the local paper where ads are organized according to caste to be even more practical about finding a partner (an already very pragmatic objective). Women are still second to men in encouragement in sports, but don’t seem barred from any profession or politics. Dowry deaths (when a husband kills his wife out of frustration at a limited dowry from her parents) aren’t common, but they do happen, probably more often than reported.
And all this in the only official Hindu nation, where the greeting is a response to the inner-Godness in everyone. It’s a warm-hearted and friendly place with glaring social contradictions and complex problems. I don’t have a final word or thought about Nepal except that I’m happy I went there and got frustrated and learned a lot and found quiet in the midst of the dirt and poverty and crowds. I’m headed home at this very moment with mixed feelings, but in general very pleased about all I’ve seen and done. There’s a lot to think about.




